My Daughter’s Pain

For the longest time I could not understand or feel the pain my daughter described. Sadly my belief system was locked into the questions that many of the parents I have come to know have asked; how in the world could you possibly feel badly when you were blessed with beauty, brains, and kindness, how could you feel badly when you have travelled the world and been educated at premier institutions, how could you feel badly when you have been recognized by your peers and professionals for your accomplishments and achievements, how could you feel badly when you are deeply loved by so many. The depths of the pain she described to me was unfathomable. Despite being in my own therapeutic process, and despite reading everything in print on bpd, I still did not appreciate the magnitude of the desperation my daughter had experienced daily. It wasn’t until recently when I have read the Face Book posts responding to the suicide of Robin Williams that I began to comprehend the depths of despair that others are living with. Reading one after another of the raw reactions, from those brave enough to share, to William’s final act , gave me a window into their excruciating feelings. Suddenly I felt as if my heart was bleeding. I got a little glimmer into the agony that I did not understand. I do not understand why it took reading the pain described by other young women to sensitize me to my own daughter’s experience. Maybe that answer will be revealed to me soon. Now having a greater appreciation, for a journey that isn’t...

Passing on a request from TARA for volunteers willing to participate in a study

Dear DBT Community,   TARA’s Helpline callers tell us that people with BPD and their families seem to  have a very difficult time getting a  diagnosis of BPD. Additionally, they encounter great difficulty finding evidence based treatment from qualified DBT therapists.   We at TARA are conducting a survey in order to obtain  data to document the experiences of the BPD population with misdiagnosis and mistreatment of BPD.. This data will be brought to the attention of NIMH and other government agencies so as support our efforts to increase research funding, treatment research and training. Please help us accomplish our goal by distributing our survey on your web site or to your clients. The survey is anonymous.   We thank you for helping us and hope our efforts will result in  more treatment programs for those with BPD.   Here is the link to the survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/6XYNDH7   Many thanks   Valerie Porr and the TARA...

Welcome to our new site

We want to welcome you to our brand new website and ask for your patience as we continue to work on it, adding and editing as we go along.  We are also welcoming feedback on the site, resources you have found helpful and recommendations for providers who have been helpful to you.  We want this to be a community resource and look forward to this being an interactive site.  If you are interested in writing an article, or sharing news or pictures, let us know.  We look forward to hearing from you!  The FBPDA...

“Change My Mind” written by G.K.

Lately, I have been really struggling to change my thoughts. To change my old beliefs about worthiness and shame. To change the judgments and comparisons that race through my head and leave me trapped behind imaginary yet very real bars. I become quickly frustrated when I trace down a thought, stop it in its tracks, and re-route it, only to have it come back not thirty seconds later, louder and more prominent than before. Let me just say, it has been and continues to be a process. And a challenging one at that. Good news is, according to this video, the battle I am fighting is very real, and just as tough as it seems. Better news- the more often I change these thoughts, the simpler the task becomes. Some much needed encouragement in this uphill climb. And if I put on my long-term glasses, I can truly see that all this hard work pays off. That I am investing in my own freedom. That day-by-day, month-by-month, year-by-year, I have the power to shape my brain and to fill it with the peace I have always longed for. Ah, peace. Now that is something worth fighting for.   Watch this video How We...