A Skillful Holiday Season

A Skillful Holiday Season For many, the holiday season is a joyous and festive time.  For others, the season brings feelings of sadness, anxiety and depression.  When you are already suffering from every day stresses, the season’s activities – gift shopping, upcoming dinner parties, decorating and family get-togethers can leave you feeling overwhelmed.  If you are feeling alone, or are going through some of life’s difficult events such as an illness (yourself or a loved one), the loss of a loved one, divorce or financial issues, the holiday season can become extremely challenging.  Here are some tips: #1  Keep up your normal routines. Make a “to do” list of additional things to be done in order of priority. #2  Be realistic, manage your expectations.  If we have an unrealistic version of what the holiday looks like, we may be very disappointed or let down if it doesn’t live up to those expectations. #3  Make healthy decisions.   Get plenty of rest and drink lots of water.  You will be better equipped to deal with additional stress if you keep yourself healthy and fatigue free.  Think moderation, it’s very easy to overindulge in food and alcohol with parties and get-togethers.  The results can lead to guilt when the festivities are over. #4  Say no when you need to.  Remember this is your holiday too and it’s okay to decline invitations or say no when you are asked to do more than you can. #5  Be mindful.  Be aware of extra tasks you’re asked to take on so you don’t become overloaded.  Don’t make quick or rash decisions and be aware of purchases you are making. Being mindful will...

Borderline Personality Disorder and Addiction: What’s the Connection?

The following article was written by Adam Cook from addiction hub.org. It does not reflect the opinion of FBPDA Board Members. Borderline Personality Disorder and Addiction: What’s the Connection? Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a disorder that causes extreme mood swings, a distorted sense of self, impulsive behavior, suicidal thoughts, self-harm, and anger problems among other symptoms. The levels of severity have a wide range from person to person, but the illness has a profound effect on the sufferer regardless. Addiction is an unfortunate effect of BPD for a number of reasons and can be extremely detrimental to the health of the individual. If someone you know has BPD, this overview of the risks of addiction and the effects it can bring will be helpful in supporting them and knowing possible warning signs to watch out for. Why Do BPD Sufferers Become Addicts? Like many mental illnesses, BPD has a tendency to go untreated thanks to a continued stigma against mental health. People with mental illnesses who receive inadequate treatment or no treatment at all become more likely to self-medicate.  Self-medication is an attempt by an ill person to use addictive substances to control their symptoms and very often leads to addiction. For those with BPD, the symptoms of anger, confusion, and turmoil can be too much to bear. Self-medicating with drugs or alcohol may seem like an escape to reduce the intensity of these emotions. Before they know it, they are not only suffering from BPD, but they are also dependent on a substance to feel “normal.” What Effects Will Addiction Have on BPD? Though substance abuse may seem...

FBPDA @ NAMI Hillsborough Walk

FBPDA Board Members and Supporters were proud to have participated in NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Hillsborough’s First Annual Walk/Run. Together, we showed our support for those with mental illness and recommitted ourselves to stomping out stigma. FBPDA Board Members and Supporters were able to contribute over $700 to support NAMI Hillsborough and their mission to enhance the lives of those living with mental illness. We look forward to collaborating with NAMI in the future! FBPDA Team and Supporters NAMI chose powerful messages to share Including facts about mental illness… FBPDA Board Members Mental Illness Facts FBPDA Board Members FBPDA Board Members FBPDA Team and Supporters Mental Illness Facts...

Day 31- BPD Awareness Month 31 Day Mindfulness Challenge

Day 30- Mindful Driving Commutes can be difficult- lots of traffic, lots of stress, and lots of to-do lists.  As I learned in this meditation, driving is a great time for me to practice mindfulness, to show up at work prepared for the day, and to return home calm- without my head spinning circles around me. This mindfulness practice for driving comes from Donald Altman’s book One Minute Mindfulness. For me, it was quite a departure from my normal multi-tasking routine that involves breakfast, makeup, a lint roller, etc. during the morning drive. But it also felt relaxing to know that the only thing I had to do or focus on, was driving. The actual practice is below, but I suggest you visit Mindful’s post Driving as Preparation to read the entire excerpt. PRACTICE: In the next day or week, take one driving trip where you are focused only on your driving, with no distractions. Do this when you are alone, and try to be as present as you can every sixty seconds. You don’t have to be perfect when doing this. When your mind wanders, to the past or the future, gently bring it back. You can even mentally affirm your present moment intention with the words “driving, driving.” Sincere thanks for joining us on this mindful journey to honor BPD Awareness Month!!...